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This is why as parents, what you say around your kids can shape how they think, behave, and even view life.
Some conversations are best kept private because they can affect a child’s confidence, emotional well-being, or even their respect for you and others.
Here are some things parents should avoid discussing in front of their children;
1. Money problems
“There’s no money in this house!”
“How will we pay school fees now?”
Talking about financial struggles in front of your kids can make them anxious or feel guilty for asking for things. While it’s good for children to understand the value of money, constantly hearing about financial difficulties may make them feel insecure or stressed.
2. Family beef and gossip
“Your uncle is very wicked; he never helps us.”
“That your aunty, she is too proud.”
Children should not be exposed to family drama. When they hear negative things about relatives, it can affect how they relate with them. Also, if you constantly gossip about people, don’t be surprised when your child picks up the habit.
3. Adult relationships and marital issues
“Your father is useless; he doesn’t do anything.”
“Your mother is always nagging, she will not let me rest.”
Speaking negatively about your spouse in front of the children can make them take sides or lose respect for one parent. Even if there are issues, it’s better to discuss them privately and not drag the kids into it.
4. Lies and deception
“Tell them I’m not at home.”
“If anyone asks, say you are 10 years old, not 12.”
When children see their parents lying, they learn that dishonesty is acceptable. If you don’t want your kids to lie to you in the future, be a good example by being truthful yourself.
5. Fears and superstitions
“If you don’t eat your food, ojuju will come for you.”
“This family is cursed; that’s why we are suffering.”
Scaring children with superstitions can make them develop unnecessary fears. Instead of making them afraid, teach them to be cautious in a way that builds confidence, not fear.
6. Inappropriate or vulgar language
“This country is a mess! All these politicians are thieves!”
“That driver is very stupid!”
Children learn how to talk by listening to their parents. If you use foul language, insult people, or constantly complain, don’t be surprised when your child starts doing the same.
7. Complain about them in their presence
“This child is too stubborn; I don’t even know what to do with him.”
“See your mate, they are doing well, but you are just dull.”
Constant criticism can lower a child’s self-esteem. Even if they make mistakes, correct them in a way that encourages them to do better, rather than making them feel useless.
8. Secrets that are not for their age
“Your father had another woman before marrying me.”
“I don’t even like my job, but I have no choice.”
Children don’t need to know everything about their parents’ past or struggles. Some things are best shared when they are older and can understand better.
In conclusion, it is important to note that your words have power. The things you say around your children shape their thinking, confidence, and even how they see the world. If a conversation is not appropriate for their age, it’s better to have it in private. Remember, children may not always do what you say, but they will do what they see and hear from you…CONTINUE READING>>
