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Trending Now| Watch Leaked Bedr00m Video of Zimbabwe Leader Robert Mugabe Son With Two W0men That Has Gone (Watch Video)Senator Shehu Sani has cautioned the Emir of Kano, Muhammadu Sanusi, against promoting domestic violence following his advice to his daughters to retaliate on their abusive husbands. ...READ THE FULL STORY FROM SOURCE ...READ THE FULL STORY FROM SOURCE
Speaking at a recent forum, the monarch said he had advised his daughters to slap their husbands back if they ever raised their hands to hit them. He emphasized that he did not raise a daughter to be slapped by a man.
The Emir also described domestic violence as haram and criminal.
“Beating your wife or beating your daughter or beating a woman is prohibited. It is a crime. Let’s not even talk about handkerchief or chewing stick. It is just haram. It is prohibited. Allah says, All harm must be removed. And beating, gender-based violence is harm. And it must be removed.
It just does not make sense. Now I said it before, and I know I’ve been attacked for it, and I’ll continue saying it. When my daughters are getting married, I say to them, if your husband slaps you, and you come home and tell me my husband slapped me, without slapping him back first, I will slap you myself because I did not send my daughter to marry somebody so he can slap her. If you do not like her, send her back to me. But don’t beat her.
And we must teach our daughters not to take it. And also teach our sons that it is not allowed to happen. It is not acceptable. It cannot happen. We have to bring up our children to understand that violence against the body of another human being, whether it’s your brother, or your sister, or your son, or your daughter, or your wife, that violence against persons violates the basic dignity of a human being,” he said.
Sanusi’s comments sparked widespread reactions from Nigerians including Senator Sani who condemned his words.Trending Now| Watch Leaked Bedr00m Video of Zimbabwe Leader Robert Mugabe Son With Two W0men That Has Gone (Watch Video)
Sani stated that violence in marriage is no longer a reason for divorce as couples are not willing to forgive each other.
He said, “His Highness Sanusi should not be encouraging this kind of domestic violence in form of slapping and slapping back. Rather, husbands and wives should learn to control themselves in moments of anger when the Devil temporarily visits their homes. When a husband is angry, he should walk out of the House and come back later. When a husband is upset and shouting loudly, the wife should just keep quiet and allow him to relieve all of his words. The sentence “I’m sorry” has a magical spirit that can evict the demon in the house.
Two people shouting at each other is the source of many divorces. If the man is becoming violent, the wife should protect herself by walking out to his family or her family home. The very day slapping and slapping back becomes the order of a family, the marriage is irreversibly destroyed even if the couple remains together. Most of the participants in those mass weddings are literally divorced wives who believe in this revengeful idea of slapping back their husbands. What is the possibility that when you slap your first husband you won’t slap the second one? Did you grew up from a home where your father slapped your mother and your mother slapped him back? How did your parents resolved their problems? Should that not be your guide?
It’s sad that you can now see thousands of divorcees from the north in Abuja, who refused to be patient with their husbands. They are virtually living a life of glorified prostitution, moving from one Honorable to another Honorable, giving them mostly false promises of multimillion-naira contracts or supplies, and sleeping with them. What they cannot tolerate from their husbands, they end up tolerating it with the honorables, whom they cannot slap back under any circumstance.
There is no perfect husband and there is no perfect and there is no perfect family. We live by learning to understand and tolerate our imperfections. Every family poor or rich has its challenges. In every home there are good moments and bad moments, when bad moments come, we should learn to navigate the storms and the turbulence and it will pass.
Most Marriages last not because of love, but because the couples have learned and master the art of overcoming those bad moments and moving on. When you are getting married to a man or a woman, just know that you are not getting married to an angel even though you call each other Angels. You also call yourselves honey and forget that honey comes from a Bee that can sting. Even me, that writes this have my own headache and troubles at home occasionally.Trending Now| Watch Leaked Bedr00m Video of Zimbabwe Leader Robert Mugabe Son With Two W0men That Has Gone (Watch Video)
Whenever I travel, my wife wants to call me on video call by midnight or 1am and she will not tolerate the excuse that I don’t have enough data sometimes or network problems; and whenever we communicated via that video, she feels happy and life moves on. One day I’ll be gone and the family will miss that moment. That is life.”…Read -T.he.Full_Article.Here.
